Why are life’s transitions hard?

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A pending change represents the ending of something which can trigger feelings of anxiety, apprehension and worry. When the ending finally arrives the sense of loss can trigger feelings of regret, remorse, anger, irritation, frustration and sadness.  As the new beginning emerges it carries a sense of renewal and feelings of hope, enthusiasm and excitement.

Resisting the emotions of change is like trying to put the leaves back on the tree.

Ignoring the emotions of change is what keeps you stuck between regrets of the past and fears of the future. Suffering your way through loss and change creates stress, depression, burnout, and a sense of helplessness or hopelessness. Learning how to embrace change and your new beginning creates a sense of freedom, satisfaction, contentment and joy.

Your life transition may be an unwanted change, a difficult challenge or an exciting new beginning.  I’ll meet you where you’re at.  I’ll walk alongside you and show you how to move through all life transitions with grace and ease.

A life transition can be positive or negative, planned or unexpected. Some transitions happen without warning.  Other life transitions come from positive experiences like, going away to college, starting a new job, moving to a new city, getting married or giving birth to a child. Even though events like these are usually planned and anticipated, they can be just as life-altering as the unexpected events.

Whether positive or negative, life transitions cause us to leave behind the familiar and force us to adjust to new ways of living, at least temporarily. They can leave us feeling completely unprepared and we may be thrown into a personal crisis, feeling shocked, angry, sad, and withdrawn.


  1. Yes! I also think smaller or less long-term transitions can have a big impact on our emotions. Whether it’s starting/stopping working with a client, transitioning into a new year or going on a vacation… especially if several things are all happening at once.

    I love your quote, “resisting the emotions of change is like trying to put the leaves back on the tree.” It’s the perfect metaphor for what so many of us try to do.

    Thanks Melody!

    • Hi Shelley,
      You are so right about the smaller transitions having a big impact on our emotions. Those are the ones that usually catch us off guard. Vacations in particular can be loaded with unspoken or unmet expectations and possibly previous disappointments. Put these all together in the emotional loss pot and add a little heat (stress) and things can really start to bubble up and boil over.

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